I stress out every time I think about this, and I don’t even have kids yet.
Part of my stress comes from the judgment surrounding the issue. Working moms get judged in the “mommy wars” dialogue for being self-centered. Stay-at-home-moms get dismissed as not being ambitious or driven enough. The (false) dichotomy and stigmas are so frustrating.
In honor of moms and future moms everywhere who make tough career decisions–and in hopes of less judgment in the future–here is a 5-minute (as in, made in 5 minutes) flowchart on the dilemma.
How it feels, societal stigmas in my face:
[Update, 11 p.m.: In case you were looking for an actual flow chart with answers, here's another take.]
In all seriousness though, any other ladies ever feel this way?